My mom didn't work until a few years ago. Sally was at least in late middle school before she started working and even then, she was working "part-timeish" so that she could get to all of Sally's stuff. I really appreciated her staying home and being able to volunteer in my classroom at school and things like that. I wanted to be able to offer that to my kids. However, I see her struggling now with working. She never really finds a job that she likes and I think she is going to have a horrible time in a couple years when Sally goes to college. Part of this is just my mom, but I think a great deal of it is that she spent 25 years at home raising kids and now really doesn't know what to do with herself. I worry about that.
Getting pregnant is a very expensive process for us. We burned through about half of our savings getting pregnant with P. I want another baby. If I am not working, it's going to be really hard to save up the amount of money it will take to have another baby. Other financial concerns include the fact that if I am not working, I will have to self-insure since I can't be included on Alicia's insurance. (Also making more challenging to have another baby!)
I agree with Carrie in thinking that babies are only little once - I could return to teaching after the kid(s) go to school. But, doing that isn't always as easy as it seems. And - how are we going to have other kids if we don't have a dual income?
On the other hand....
I truly believe that people should raise their own children. What kind of awful parent am I if I just ship my infant off for someone else to deal with during the day? I read the info on the websites about all the teachers playing with the babies and all the wonderful one on one time that is spent with them and I literally start crying because I don't want to pay someone to play with my baby. I want to play with my baby! I want to be there when she rolls and crawls and walks and all of those things.
Although I, theoretically, will be in a different position, I will still be in the same school district and I have not had super positive experiences there. I HATE my current position, which made the decision to stay home and deal with everything else much easier. Now that the position is different (and quite ambiguous at that) I may be making it rosier than it is. I could hate it just as much. Then, I would be paying someone to play with and raise my baby while I went to a job that I hated. That's certainly not right.
I suppose I don't have to make a decision right now. Who knows how I will actually feel about everything once P is here. It's just on my mind right now.